The Price of Privilege
This book has been a terrific resource for me as I work with Young Adults. It was written in 2006 by Madeline Levine, PhD., a clinical Psychologist who specializes in adolescent behaviors. A quick overview:
Which children are at risk for being disconnected and unhappy? The answer from child psychologist Madeline Levine might surprise you. Her insightful and helpful commentary is full of terrific advice and strategies that help parents and extended family members raise children who develop a healthy and authentic sense of self.
There are so many useful ideas in Madeline’s book. In working with Young Adults and their parents I have focused on the Eight Internal Resources all children need to develop to be happy, fully functional adults. Madeline discusses these resources at length in her book.
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Eight Internal Resources To Happiness and Fully-Functional Children
- Self Control — A belief and an ability to do things yourself, handle things yourself, and figure things out.
- Ability to Delay Gratification — Recognize you can’t have everything you want, when you want it.
- Frustration Tolerance — Tolerate frustration without “acting out.”
- Sense of Competency — Have a realistic view of one’s skills and competencies.
- Self Efficacy — The belief that you can successfully impact your world.
- Ability to Act in One’s Best Interest — Take control and acting in one’s best interest.
- Practice Impulse Control — Know which impulses must be denied.
- Develop a “Self” who is… Authentic — Capable — Loving — Creative — Moral
In future blogs I will be discussing each of these resources and bringing you the voices of my Young Adults as they grapple with “growing up” and developing these important internal resources.
I always turn to the dictionary for a clear understanding before I start addressing a topic. Webster’s Dictionary defines Privilege as:
- Restricted right or benefit — An advantage, right, or benefit that is not available to everyone
- Rights and advantages enjoyed by elite — The rights and advantages enjoyed by a relatively small group of people, usually as a result of wealth or social status / a system founded on privilege
In talking with Young Adults, I begin the discussion of the Eight Internal Resources by telling them the list comes from a book called, The Price of Privilege. I explain the book is written for parents and I always ask, “Do you know you are privileged?”
Most Young Adults pause for just a moment…and all have said, “Yes!” I then ask them to explain how they know they are privileged. This usually involves a long list of material items as well as much description of unique opportunities such as exotic travel; specialized lessons, sports, or camps, etc. they have experienced in their lives. They always include the love and support they have received from their parents and extended family. They view that as part of why they are privileged.
As I listen to their discussion of privilege I know how much these kids’ parents would love to hear this! I always encourage these young people to share with their parents what they have so willingly shared with me!
In my next few blogs I will bring you a mother’s voice, a Young Adult who has a good perspective on “privilege,” and explore a very important question. Who defines success?