Seeking Consensus Often Doesn’t Work
Trying to please everybody all of the time is an ineffective method of leading a team.
We all make numerous decisions every day. Decision-making remains at the center of our personal and professional lives. Some are small and safe. Other decisions are more important — decisions that affect peoples’ livelihoods and welfares — decisions that affect organizations. Wouldn’t it be great if we could get everyone on our teams to agree and actually be happy and supportive with all the decisions that need to be made? Since individual-thinking human beings make up our teams, this is unlikely to happen. People often see issues differently – and we all have different experiences, values, personalities, styles, and needs. Many people think leaders should strive for consensus about all major decisions. Successful teams understand the danger of seeking consensus and find ways to achieve buy-in even when complete agreement is impossible
Why do some leaders think they need to keep everyone happy and please everyone?
- Some leaders are more at ease being “people pleasers.” Their main goal is to try to persuade everyone to come around to their viewpoint and be happy about it. People who have a strong desire to please everybody usually feel that way because they don’t want to deal with the consequences of someone else being displeased.
- Other leaders fear conflict and don’t want to tell their coworkers they aren’t going to get their way. These leaders absolutely hate the idea of anyone being unhappy, dissatisfied, or angry at them for any reason.
- Leaders often need to make the difficult decisions even if everyone does not agree. This means they need to “own” their decisions and stand by them…and allow others to disagree.Think about situations in your life. Have you ever pleased everybody all of the time? No matter what leaders do and no matter what they say, they will never succeed at pleasing everybody. Leaders are setting themselves up for failure if they set their expectations that pleasing everybody all the time is possible.
Good teams trust each other, engage in constructive ideological conflict and do not hold back. They commit to the decisions and plans they make, hold each other accountable for working to make plans happen, and they are focused on collective results.
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