Three-Year-Olds Already Know What They Want To Be
Do you Realize Your Three-Year-Olds Already Know What They Want To Be When They Grow Up? Parents watch their kids play all the time! I would like to add an extra dimension to this that will give you clues to your child’s future career opportunities.
These observations can start as soon as your child begins to show interest and play with a variety of objects and toys. Studies support the fact that the toys children gravitate towards help promote the skills they may draw on in their future careers.
As you watch your child play, does your child:
- Attempt to build with different objects and toys?
- Take things apart and then attempt to put them back together?
- Create stories about different toys or even attempt to act out the stories?
As your child has grown does he/she show natural interests such as…
Create a “school” inside your garage complete with desks, blackboard, and handouts?
My twin sister and I held “school after school” for a few years while we were in elementary school — although we can’t remember what we “taught.” We began reading at age 4 and loved to “teach.”
Wear a suit he created by himself as his first Halloween costume because he loved playing a spy and wanted to be Bond…, James Bond?
His dad tells me he gladly joined the National League of Junior Cotillions when he was eleven because he got to wear a suit! This young man is now in high school and plans a career as a Navy SEAL.
Gather the neighborhood children together to “picket” for equal allowance so they could all have the same fun?
This young woman now works in public relations for the American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU).
Pervin Fernando used her observation skills and wrote to tell me about her son Kamran.
For the past year I have observed my son, Kamran — now 22 months old — taking different toys out of his toy basket and banging them on various surfaces throughout our home. Now, I’m sure that those of you at home are probably saying right about now… what’s the big deal about that? Just about every kid bangs his toys around.
And you would be right. Children do love to use their toys to generate noise. But I have learned through career counseling sessions with Jan that games children play are a surefire predictor of future career choices.
Both my husband and our son’s caretaker have noticed this “game” that Kamran loves to play — and we have all commented about it at separate times. It is fascinating to watch the way Kamran searches for objects in his toy box. His favorites are a terry-cloth teddy bear, a wooden block, or his ultimate all-time favorite — a tin pie pan from Marie Callendars restaurant. He will carefully carry each toy to a different part of the house so he can test out the sound it makes as well as how high it bounces if he throws it on the carpet versus the tiled areas of our home. He has tested these toys on our concrete patio as well as the grassy areas of our backyard.
We are all certain that Kamran will gravitate toward a career as a scientist or engineer. He is clearly focused and happily absorbed while he conducts his tests. He can’t seem to help himself from approaching the world in this fashion. It is a wonder to see it!
Kamran also loves to play with a doll-size stroller and toy vacuum that his sister owns — but not to play house. He turns over the stroller and the vacuum and studies the wheels. He will spin them to see how they turn and to what parts they are connected. He will turn the battery-operated vacuum on and off, while placing his ear close to the engine so he can listen to the noise and its variations when the vacuum is placed in different positions and on different surfaces.
We’ve bought Kamran a tool set and given him no-longer-used cell phones and flash lights to take apart. My husband and I both want to encourage our children to develop their individual talents and to find their passion, so they too can enjoy their life’s work as much as we do.
Some interesting literature and articles on this subject are: