Nurturing the Creative Soul
Do you have a child in your family that is the “creative” one? Are they more sensitive than the others? Do you sometimes worry about how their life is going to turn out…how they will fare in the world of work?
All of the parents out there that have more than one child may have one young adult that views the world differently from the others…differently from you. How do we nurture this creative, sensitive soul? This is a question I think about often. I have one son who is definitely different from his sister and brothers…and always has been. He started out in this world viewing it and reacting to it quite differently from most other people. How will he make a living? How will he endure the tough stretches in life? How will he thrive? These are questions that frequently keep me awake at night as I struggle to be the best support I can be for him.
Creative definitely describes him. Sensitive also would be a good descriptive word for him. I remember when he was 9 years old and I took him with me to “Bring Your Child to Work” day. I was an outside consultant to a very large utility company in Southern California. We had set up programs for the children to see and feel what “work” was like. We stepped off of the elevator in a large high-rise office building in downtown Los Angeles. He stopped suddenly and grabbed my hand. “Mom!” he said. “What are all of these people doing at these desks?” he asked. “Can they get up and walk around? Do they have to ask permission?” he asked with a concerned tone. “This looks like a prison!”
Needless to say, the corporate world is probably not in his future. He is a fine art major finishing his undergraduate degree. He would like to go on and get a master’s degree in fine art so that he could teach at a college level. My concern has always been: will he have the discipline and political acumen to make it at the university teaching level?
These are my concerns. The concerns of a mother who happens to be a career coach. An interesting development has happened for me. I have been speaking to counselors and instructors at his college because I am counseling some of their students. They have volunteered to me how capable they believe my son to be in his chosen field. Their view of him does not have the parent filter that I have. Interesting…yes?
While I believe parents play an important role in the educational decisions of their children, we still need to remember that we will ALWAYS have the parent filter when it comes to our children. ALWAYS! I believe that my concerns are from the point of view that my son is so very different from me, my husband, and our other children. It has been an eye-opener for me.
I have come to realize that I am not objective when it comes to my children. I simply can’t be. I am and always will be his mom. That is not a bad thing. It just is. My lesson in this is that others may be better able to help this wonderful, sensitive, and creative soul. They see him for the creative young man that he is. My best help for him is to just love him as a son and know that he has a great heart and great talent…and stepping back may just be my greatest gift.
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